There are two YouTubers who have made many videos on, “How to get a girl to like you” and whose work stand out to me. There are tons of these types of videos on YouTube, however, these two specific channels make the produce the most interesting content- clever, stylish animation and communicate with viewers in an engaging way.

I’m all for self-improvement and have been following these two YouTubers for tips on meditation and happiness. Then, out came the video on Attraction.

PSYCHOLOGICAL SECRETS OF ATTRACTION

What is it about each sex that attracts one to the other?

Disclaimer: I am not discounting the gay community. I am just commenting on this video as these YouTubers focused on heterosexual attraction.

The video starts by saying that every year people spend more money on beauty enhancements than they do on education. He seems shocked at this. However, if you look at most videos from this self-improvement community, they all usually say that if you want to impress people, charm people, do well in a meeting, you first need to get some good stylish clothes, make sure you have good hygiene and make yourself look presentable. That is always the first step. People can say it’s shallow, but I totally agree with this. When you look good, you feel good, and which brings about self confidence.

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All that being said, it is still scary that we are more obsessed with looking good than actually being able to think intelligently.

I find it interesting how color has such an effect on us. In office buildings, they are careful as to which color they paint the walls in order to get the best out of the people who work there. However, even the color of somebody’s clothing can affect how they make you feel around them. It shows how sensitive we are as human beings to the smallest of triggers.

It all comes down to the fact that physical attraction plays a huge role in our brains and, as girls, we are lucky. We can wear mascara and high heels to make ourselves more attractive…guys…it’s not as easy for you. People can say you should go for a person’s mind and who they are. But we are animals by nature. We can’t help what we are attracted to.

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Symmetry seems to be a huge factor. I remember a long time ago there was a documentary done on beauty. In the show, the presenter said that Elizabeth Hurley could be considered the most beautiful woman in the world because her face was completely symmetrical. This explains why we find more people attractive when we have had a few drinks as their flaws become blurred to us and they appear more symmetrical.

I can imagine a lot of people would be offended by channels such as, ‘Far From Average':

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6Iaz96RkYE-MOjnq5NPgqw/videos

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I once met someone who never did anything to upset me but, he rarely showered and it seemed like he couldn’t be bothered to wash his clothes. He reeked and just being around him would put me in a bad mood. Smell is such a strong sense yet we don’t even realize it.

People talk about narcissism as if it is the worst thing possible. However, as said in the video, most people are attracted to narccisists. They ooze confidence:

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I’m not saying be selfish and self-centered and hurt others. I am not saying that at all. But It’s the age old saying that you have to love yourself first before you can love someone else. It’s about self-care which is very different to being self-centered.

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And attraction doesn’t just have to be about sex and relationships. If you are more attractive to someone, you are probably going to get what you want out of them, be it a job, a favor…whatever. It comes down to the fact that the more self-belief you have and the more comfortable you are with yourself, the better your chances are in life for success.

Am I happy that there are guys like Far From Average making videos for helpless guys and girls out there? In a word, yes.

Kat Coetzee