There was a time not too long ago, when one simply picked up the phone and called someone.

Now, many of us text people- even when they are right next to us.

Wait, before even calling someone, there was the time, when we would meet people for lunch or dinner or a drink and talk- face to face.

Wait: Before this, there was the time when you’d actually have people over to your home for lunch, dinner or just for the hell of having people over.

No one stood on ceremony and no one needed to make appointments to see each other. We’d just drop in.

Today? How many times have you visited a friend at their home?

Never? If so, isn’t this a pretty weird “friendship”?

Today, we talk about “social media” and how it’s “bringing people together” and “connecting people” and which has some truth to it.

But, all this “social media” is also something of an oxymoron and where there exists an enormous disconnect between people.

With texting, some get the wrong message no matter how many “smileys” you might add.

Emails written in the heat of anger have seen many burn some valuable bridges.

With communications- and so many different types of communication- available at our fingertips, we are losing the genuine art of communications.

Hell, even sex has entered the world of “social media” and “sexting” has come into play. And, sure, I have played the game until my phone bill started mounting up.

It was fun while it lasted, but, like some of the profiles of, let’s say, Facebook, there was always something fake about all the “sexting.”

It was, and is, largely, fairy tales for adults.

I was reminded of all this when out with some friends the other night and one of the women with us kept checking her iPhone every minute: She wanted to “update” her friends on Facebook.

Yes, she’d get up and dance for a few minutes, then sit down, take some pictures of the cheese nachos on the table in front of us and upload it onto her Facebook page and also tweet it.

Why? Who knows?

I guess this is her way of “connecting” with people.

Does it work? Does anyone care? Is it just more clutter for our already cluttered minds?

Is it all the equivalent of some twit tweeting you with some spam?

Or your computer being hacked and identity being stolen?

Bottom line: Technology is a great thing, but, it can also be a very addictive and dangerous thing if it takes over our daily lives.

And when it stops us from thinking for ourselves and turning us into a world made up of the Tin Man from “The Wizard Of Oz”.

This is when technology is pulling all the strings without us even knowing it.

That’s ‘cos we’re walking through life on Remote and in need of some oil for our brains.

Or, we’ve blown a gasket.

Hans Ebert